What do I do?

I'm poor.
Literally, poor. We have $-135 in the bank, and since my 13th birthday was a couple weeks ago, and I have $75 saved up, my parents borrowed my money.
However, school just started, and we have to get school supplies for all eight of my classes. And obviously, school costs all the money we don't have. My father spends all his money (including mine) on cigarettes, lottery, and beer. His smoking has gotten so bad that he is constantly stopping breathing in his sleep, and I'm worried that...well, he's going to die soon.
What should I do about the money and school? We live in an area of all blue ribbon schools and rich kids, and I feel like I'm the only one not wearing all designer, یا who has a backpack yet, یا any supplies. I'm lonely, and I'm worried that because of this path we're on, my dad is going to die. His work offers $1000 off of insurance if he takes a health screening and pledges to try and clear tobacco from his life, but he won't do it. So, my سوال is...what do I do?
 xVanilla-Saltx posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک
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writer67 said:
sorry, what can i say. i hope your luck changes. آپ care for آپ family and have much respect. saddly dad needs to take a look in the mirror, alike the song from mj. his health is failing and when his numbers do come up, he will have a دل attack. he has a chance to do the right thing for his family and for his child. آپ keep doing well in scholl and in study, if i had a spare grand یا two id send it for you, so آپ wouldnt have to worry, but i can only offer words, and a prayer. but its up to him. i pray that he sees the harm hes doing to himself. my wifes uncle is at deaths door, as i type, and we have to go as he may not last the night, good old smokes. puff puff cough. take care ms. and good luck in your grades. i have been in similar shoes. but i am a grandad now. and my kids are grown, but i am going to be around for long time yet. but he will dream a change. take care and may peace be with آپ always;-]
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BabyBlud said:
I can understand how being poor feels. My family are poor as well so i can understand the frustration. First of all any money آپ get from now on آپ keep and hide. That money is yours, end of. Do not allow your parents to 'borrow' it as if your parents are anything like mine, a loan will turn into a gift >.> About your school supply problem - press your parents to find the money and also آپ could write to your school, explaining your predicament and asking if they can 'loan' آپ the school supplies while your parents pay سے طرف کی instalments. That means your parents pay a certain amount of the fee during a course of the time, which spreads the cost around. Ask your school if there are any ways آپ can buy the things آپ need مزید cheaply, like سیکنڈ hand things, and ask whether they give discounts یا 'appeals' for those on a low income. Discounts and 'appeals' as they are called in england, are where because آپ are on a fixed یا low income the school pays a certain amount to get the things آپ need and آپ pay the percentage left over. For instance, if a school blazer cost $30 and the school paid 10% you'd pay the rest. آپ could also try getting a before and after school job, دودھ round, paper round and working in a corner دکان on the weekends to get مزید money in your pocket. Again, keep it to yourself. Never give your parents money.
As for the problem of your father - smoking is very hard to give up. I'm a smoker so i understand how hard it can be. The only time i managed to give up smoking was when i was pregnant and a few months after my sons birth, after that once again i got caught into the smoking chain and from that دن on i have smoked ever since. I have tried to quit countless times, which i'm sure your father has, but it's not always easy. آپ could try getting your father to be included in a 'stop-smoking help' group. A little like the New Leaf smoking group we have in England.
Go to your doctors and express your worries and ask for advice, your doctor will be able to give آپ leaflets and put آپ in contact with specialists who could help.
آپ must sit your parents down and tell them that their habits are ruining not only their lives, the ہوم life and your social life and school life, but also making آپ feel helpless.
Explain to your father that آپ want him to be around for as long as possible, آپ want to help him to quit smoking and آپ will be there for him.
Suggest going with him to self help groups, creating a hobby آپ can both share to keep his hands busy when his cravings kick in.
Also tell him آپ love him dearly, and آپ do not want him to die. Just explain it, but don't mix the words. Sometimes shocking words are better. All آپ have to say is 'dad i love آپ so much, i care about you, i want آپ to live to see me graduate from university, to walk me down the ailse when i get married, to see your grandchildren, but if آپ do not quit smoking and drinking آپ will die.'

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آپ must also remind them they owe آپ your money back. It was your money, they 'borrowed' it which means it was a loan and آپ are entilted to that money back. آپ can be lienant and say they can pay آپ in instalments if they are short, but also say that doing chores and getting 'paid' pocket-money does not include the loan. As for the kids in school. All آپ will have to do is ignore them and try to make some friends. If they are true دوستوں they shouldn't care whether you're wearing designer clothes یا not, but any bullying and آپ must رپورٹ it straight away. better to nip these type of things in the bud before they turn nasty.
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