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NCISLuverjk93 said:
It went much better than I expected. I was so nervous, mostly about telling my mom, that I was already in a relationship with another girl. I honestly thought she'd disown me. And that I'd lose my family, and also my best friend.
I told my best friend first, and she کہا that she was of course still my bestie, she still loved me, and that it changed nothing. And that she was so happy for me, that I had finally found the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Then I told my sister and nephew, who were shocked, but took it well. Made a few jokes but that only showed how understanding they were.
And finally, months later, I told my mom. I kept planning to do it, then when the time came I chickened out, thinking it wasn't the right moment. So one day, I was at her house waiting for my bestie to pick me up, and I told her I had something important to tell her and that I didn't know how she'd take it. She kinda laughed and jokingly accused me of being pregnant. I laughed but was so close to tears, and then I kind of just blurted it. Personally, my sexuality is.. complicated. I have this whole story, but I won't bore آپ with it.. my point being I couldn't just say "I'm a lesbian" یا even that I'm bi, and I just told her that the friend I had been visiting every few months {Out of state, we're in an LDR} is not just a friend, but my girlfriend. And I was crying سے طرف کی that point. I couldn't help it. Then she just کہا "Oh honey, that's it? I already knew. I could tell." And I just nearly died. Out of relief and shock. She came over and hugged me while I tried to stop crying, and کہا she couldn't believe I was so afraid to tell her. And that she would love all of her children no matter what. Whether they're white, black, straight, gay, etc. She's not all 'Yay gay people', but she's there for me and loves me, that's all I could ask for. A little after that my girlfriend and I made our relationship 'Facebook official'. A few تبصرے were made, just people being shocked, nothing bad.
So that's my story of 'coming out'. I know for a lot of people it's far different than that, not a happy ending kind of story. And I am just so lucky and grateful to have such amazing دوستوں and family. And I wish no one had to go through their parents یا family یا دوستوں not accepting them because they aren't straight and 'normal'. It's sad, but mostly sickening. But what's worse is when آپ let people like that force آپ to keep it hidden. Keep your true sexuality hidden. Because if آپ do that, trust me, you'll never be happy. When I was keeping my relationship a secret it felt.. horrible. I hated lying and having to sneak around just because I was afraid of being judged. And due to the fact I could lose people I loved dearly. But آپ know, if they can't accept آپ for who آپ are, they aren't worth it.
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