Are آپ asking only because of the consequences that might be brought if آپ get find out یا you're questioning the morality of those actions as well regardless of the outcome? I believe it depends. Personally, if I happen to have an issue with people and talk about it with third parties, that means I have no problem saying it to the their faces as well. Otherwise, I won't bring it up at all as I don't see the need. Pretty much, it is all about the intent. What exactly are آپ saying behind someone's back? First of all, did آپ already attempted to talk to him/her and found it pointless? Are آپ worried about کہا person and doing it because آپ care? Are آپ that afraid to confront him/her whether that fear of yours has basis یا not? Is it because آپ want to harm that person سے طرف کی creating unnecessary drama? When it comes to the last one, yes, it is considered a big no-no and shows a pretty negative side to your Character. Besides, if you're too caught up with others you'll never اقدام آگے yourself !!!!
Its because doing so can easily create false rumors and/or perpetuate an issue to be something much bigger than what it originally was when it could have easily been cut short سے طرف کی talking to the person directly / being honest.
Plus it makes آپ super fake and, as آپ said, they are likely going to find out sooner یا later.
I think it depends; if someone کہا something really rude to آپ I think آپ have the right to go ہوم and vent about it to someone else. But when the gossip starts then there's a problem یا if the person did literally nothing to you.
Of course I prefer to either talk if out with the person یا say it to their face. If not I usually just keep it to myself.
As far as it getting back to the person, let me tell آپ a thing; this asshole took an مضمون of mine from this site and trash talked it on a website I never even heard of. I found that shit and آپ better believe I ripped that person a new one in a response مضمون and then linked them to it.
Case سے طرف کی case thing honestly. Generally speaking if آپ do that آپ can seem fake but there are sometimes it's valid and/or useful for the situation. But being honest with آپ if there's a shithead. I am not going to care if I talk behind them یا in front of them. Hell I'll talk on the side of them just to be funny. Unless I know doing such will have an effect I do not want. I wouldn't care in reference to a shithead. Otherwise if you're talking behind someone's back to be a shithead for no other reason than just being a shithead it is definitely a problem.