Just seeing if what they ask and what they do are complete opposites of each other. Over usage of threats. Constantly asking for things. Using guilt and sympathy to gain control. Blaming آپ for things that arent your fault. Public humiliation. Passive aggressiveness then denying کہا passive aggressiveness and playing innocent. Using good moments against آپ as leverage یا as a threat یا as a way of "owing".
In short, emotionally manipulative and / یا emotionally abusive behavior combined with the denial of کہا behavior یا sudden changes from the bad to the great.