what to do if he wont do anything with آپ

Just because you're ready to go that step futher doesn't mean he is too, آپ need to be absolutely certain that this is what آپ both want and آپ also need to compromise.
He may feel a little awkward about how to start, as there things you've described sound like for-play to me, the bit آپ do before hand to get each other started. So why not try role-playing, dirty talking, adding objects to the game if that's what you're into. یا finding parts of the body he doesn't mind being touched یا touching.