I want آپ to know you’re not alone.
Sometimes it feels like you’re the only one—the only woman in the world who flits along the line of self-reliant and dependent, tender and tough, capable and yet still longing to be loved.
There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who is comfortable in her own skin, able to live her life her own way, perfectly fine making her own decisions, and yet, totally and completely interested in finding a man to stand سے طرف کی her side.
There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who’s just fine when she’s single, who doesn’t need a significant other to complete her, who doesn’t feel lost یا purposeless outside of a relationship, yet still hopes to have one.
There’s nothing wrong with being independent and strong-willed, determined and self-sufficient, and yet still love to love.
Sometimes the world makes آپ feel like آپ have to choose one side یا the other. If you’re going to be the independent woman, then آپ have to claim your singleness, right? آپ have to be distant and removed. آپ have to walk around with this ‘I don’t need a man’ attitude, and shun any woman who dares to lower herself سے طرف کی letting someone in.
And if you’re the opposite, then you’re the woman who has her relationship(s) as her central focus. The woman whose emotions and decisions are ruled سے طرف کی love. The woman who is continuously shifting and changing her life to accommodate a significant other and the dreams the two of them have together.
But neither of those sides feel right to you.
Because آپ are not the kind of woman who sees men as obstacles in your way. آپ don’t wear your independence as a badge on your chest, as an excuse to push men out of your heart. But آپ don’t feel like your life purpose is to be in a relationship, to fall in love, to have someone سے طرف کی your side all the time.
Sometimes the world makes those sides look like polar opposites, and when you’re standing there, trying to figure out where آپ fit, neither side feels healthy. Either you’re so alone یا so wrapped up in love, and even though آپ know that’s not exactly how it is, آپ can’t seem to find yourself fitting anywhere.
But you’re not the only one who feels this way.
You’re not the only one who feels confident and proud of who she is and wants to guard that independence, yet still wants to find someone to share her life with. You’re not the only one who values the parts of herself that have grown in her singleness, yet hopes to be in a relationship with someone who allows her to bloom both together and separate.
آپ are an independent and strong woman who loves to love. آپ can stand your ground, make your own choices, live your own life, yet آپ enjoy dating and being connected to another person. آپ are your best self when آپ are a little of both—self-loving and outward-loving.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
آپ don’t have to give up parts of yourself to fall into a relationship. آپ don’t have to compromise your self-sufficiency, your strength, your sense of being just to let someone in. آپ don’t have to feel tied down سے طرف کی your relationships, یا that آپ are changing who آپ are just to love someone.
It is possible to be the girl who’s independent, and still depend on the guy she loves. It is possible to be the woman who’s strong, and even stronger with her man سے طرف کی her side.
So own who آپ are, how آپ love, the way آپ feel. What the world doesn’t understand is truly how hard آپ have it. آپ live in a continual state of conflict. آپ long to be independent and powerful, but آپ crave the connection آپ can have with someone else. آپ want to live out your self-focused, self-driven existence, but at the same time, آپ want to share your world with another person.
آپ don’t want to appear to be too selfish یا self-centered, but آپ don’t want to look feeble یا dependent either—it’s hard to be a strong, independent woman who loves to love.
But let this be a reminder that آپ are not the only woman who has this tension. آپ are not the only one who shifts back and forth, unsure of where she fits.
So own the parts of آپ that flit this line. Own the parts of آپ that love yourself, and the parts that love to love. Own the ways آپ are not like either side of the world, but have made your own nook. Own the woman آپ are because there is nothing wrong with her; she is a perfect mix.
Sometimes it feels like you’re the only one—the only woman in the world who flits along the line of self-reliant and dependent, tender and tough, capable and yet still longing to be loved.
There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who is comfortable in her own skin, able to live her life her own way, perfectly fine making her own decisions, and yet, totally and completely interested in finding a man to stand سے طرف کی her side.
There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who’s just fine when she’s single, who doesn’t need a significant other to complete her, who doesn’t feel lost یا purposeless outside of a relationship, yet still hopes to have one.
There’s nothing wrong with being independent and strong-willed, determined and self-sufficient, and yet still love to love.
Sometimes the world makes آپ feel like آپ have to choose one side یا the other. If you’re going to be the independent woman, then آپ have to claim your singleness, right? آپ have to be distant and removed. آپ have to walk around with this ‘I don’t need a man’ attitude, and shun any woman who dares to lower herself سے طرف کی letting someone in.
And if you’re the opposite, then you’re the woman who has her relationship(s) as her central focus. The woman whose emotions and decisions are ruled سے طرف کی love. The woman who is continuously shifting and changing her life to accommodate a significant other and the dreams the two of them have together.
But neither of those sides feel right to you.
Because آپ are not the kind of woman who sees men as obstacles in your way. آپ don’t wear your independence as a badge on your chest, as an excuse to push men out of your heart. But آپ don’t feel like your life purpose is to be in a relationship, to fall in love, to have someone سے طرف کی your side all the time.
Sometimes the world makes those sides look like polar opposites, and when you’re standing there, trying to figure out where آپ fit, neither side feels healthy. Either you’re so alone یا so wrapped up in love, and even though آپ know that’s not exactly how it is, آپ can’t seem to find yourself fitting anywhere.
But you’re not the only one who feels this way.
You’re not the only one who feels confident and proud of who she is and wants to guard that independence, yet still wants to find someone to share her life with. You’re not the only one who values the parts of herself that have grown in her singleness, yet hopes to be in a relationship with someone who allows her to bloom both together and separate.
آپ are an independent and strong woman who loves to love. آپ can stand your ground, make your own choices, live your own life, yet آپ enjoy dating and being connected to another person. آپ are your best self when آپ are a little of both—self-loving and outward-loving.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
آپ don’t have to give up parts of yourself to fall into a relationship. آپ don’t have to compromise your self-sufficiency, your strength, your sense of being just to let someone in. آپ don’t have to feel tied down سے طرف کی your relationships, یا that آپ are changing who آپ are just to love someone.
It is possible to be the girl who’s independent, and still depend on the guy she loves. It is possible to be the woman who’s strong, and even stronger with her man سے طرف کی her side.
So own who آپ are, how آپ love, the way آپ feel. What the world doesn’t understand is truly how hard آپ have it. آپ live in a continual state of conflict. آپ long to be independent and powerful, but آپ crave the connection آپ can have with someone else. آپ want to live out your self-focused, self-driven existence, but at the same time, آپ want to share your world with another person.
آپ don’t want to appear to be too selfish یا self-centered, but آپ don’t want to look feeble یا dependent either—it’s hard to be a strong, independent woman who loves to love.
But let this be a reminder that آپ are not the only woman who has this tension. آپ are not the only one who shifts back and forth, unsure of where she fits.
So own the parts of آپ that flit this line. Own the parts of آپ that love yourself, and the parts that love to love. Own the ways آپ are not like either side of the world, but have made your own nook. Own the woman آپ are because there is nothing wrong with her; she is a perfect mix.
