Hello there! :) As I کہا in the title, this is moslty directed towards boys. I've just witnessed a lot of آپ being intolerable jerks, (not all of you, just most of the guys where I live) and I'd like to share my knowledge. SO JUST STOP RIGHT THERE and let Hazel give آپ some advice. :)
1. When آپ introduce her to your friends, introduce her AS YOUR GIRLFRIEND.
Don't just say- "Oh, this is Penelope. Anyway..." Nonono, rather- "Hey guys, this is my girlfriend, Penelope. I love her, so be nice." When آپ introduce her to your friends, it shows her that she will probably be around for a while, which makes her feel special.
2. (If at school) communicate with her silently from across the room.
Whether it's just a smile, wink, یا anything of those sorts, it will brighten her day. Seeing the boy she oves smiling warmly at her will make her tummy tingle.
3. BE HER BEST FRIEND.
This is extremely important, hence the capital letters. When آپ are in a relationship, being lovers seems amazing, right? The warm feeling آپ always get when آپ two kiss, hug, share intimate moments, ect. But after a while, if all آپ two are is lovers, it begins to get old, یا boring. There ARE times in relationships when آپ randomly don't love your partner as much as آپ normally do. During those times, if آپ have a friendship with your partner, آپ will have something left. Ever seen couples who are married at a very old age when they are all wrinkly and saggy and a bit gross? They had that best friendship. If آپ are JUST lovers, آپ won't want to be lovers when you're all saggy.
Does this make sense? Laugh with her. Share inside jokes with her. Play games with her. Go out for coffee and just talk about your day. A best friendship for me is looking at someone from across the room and being able to have silent conversations with just facial expressions. She will love being your best friend.
4. Have "a song" یا "a food" یا "a show".
This also goes with being best friends. There is this boy that I used to like- Our Song was "If آپ Wanted A Song Written About You, All آپ Had To Do Was Ask" سے طرف کی Mayday Parade. (We weren't dating, but آپ get the point.) If آپ two had a دکھائیں and it was... "The Office" for example, every time a new episode came on, آپ two will make some popcorn, scurry to the TV, and snuggle up & watch, happy as can be. All the while, آپ are eating... String cheese, which is "your food". Are آپ getting the point?
5. Make her feel safe, but let her make her own choices.
Girls love the feeling of being محفوظ in their boy's arms, being kissed on the forehead, just being protected. But آپ can't be TOO protective, because she'll feel restrained and powerless. Example- if some guy is flirting with your girl, kick his ass! But don't make her stop talking to her guy friends. It is a bit frustrating when the boyfriend is overly protective.
6. Be sweet to her, but آپ must also be firm.
This reminds me of a South Park episode- Satan loved Saddam Hussein AND this guy named Chris. He loved how Chris was sweet to him, but he was just TOO sweet. Satan hated how Saddam was an asshole, but Saddam was was also firm and it was attractive to Satan.
(Translation) xD
Be very sweet and nice to your girlfriend. She should be a princess to you. But at the same time, if she lies to آپ یا does something that upsets you, (flirts with another guy, cheats, stays out too late) آپ have to be firm and scold her. Set boundries. Every girl wants a sweet guy, but if آپ don't set boundries, she may feel free to continue to do some bad things. Don't be so firm that she is scared of you, just enough that she understands that آپ care and آپ are worried.
That's it for now. :) I'll make another one later! <3 See آپ all.
-Hazel
1. When آپ introduce her to your friends, introduce her AS YOUR GIRLFRIEND.
Don't just say- "Oh, this is Penelope. Anyway..." Nonono, rather- "Hey guys, this is my girlfriend, Penelope. I love her, so be nice." When آپ introduce her to your friends, it shows her that she will probably be around for a while, which makes her feel special.
2. (If at school) communicate with her silently from across the room.
Whether it's just a smile, wink, یا anything of those sorts, it will brighten her day. Seeing the boy she oves smiling warmly at her will make her tummy tingle.
3. BE HER BEST FRIEND.
This is extremely important, hence the capital letters. When آپ are in a relationship, being lovers seems amazing, right? The warm feeling آپ always get when آپ two kiss, hug, share intimate moments, ect. But after a while, if all آپ two are is lovers, it begins to get old, یا boring. There ARE times in relationships when آپ randomly don't love your partner as much as آپ normally do. During those times, if آپ have a friendship with your partner, آپ will have something left. Ever seen couples who are married at a very old age when they are all wrinkly and saggy and a bit gross? They had that best friendship. If آپ are JUST lovers, آپ won't want to be lovers when you're all saggy.
Does this make sense? Laugh with her. Share inside jokes with her. Play games with her. Go out for coffee and just talk about your day. A best friendship for me is looking at someone from across the room and being able to have silent conversations with just facial expressions. She will love being your best friend.
4. Have "a song" یا "a food" یا "a show".
This also goes with being best friends. There is this boy that I used to like- Our Song was "If آپ Wanted A Song Written About You, All آپ Had To Do Was Ask" سے طرف کی Mayday Parade. (We weren't dating, but آپ get the point.) If آپ two had a دکھائیں and it was... "The Office" for example, every time a new episode came on, آپ two will make some popcorn, scurry to the TV, and snuggle up & watch, happy as can be. All the while, آپ are eating... String cheese, which is "your food". Are آپ getting the point?
5. Make her feel safe, but let her make her own choices.
Girls love the feeling of being محفوظ in their boy's arms, being kissed on the forehead, just being protected. But آپ can't be TOO protective, because she'll feel restrained and powerless. Example- if some guy is flirting with your girl, kick his ass! But don't make her stop talking to her guy friends. It is a bit frustrating when the boyfriend is overly protective.
6. Be sweet to her, but آپ must also be firm.
This reminds me of a South Park episode- Satan loved Saddam Hussein AND this guy named Chris. He loved how Chris was sweet to him, but he was just TOO sweet. Satan hated how Saddam was an asshole, but Saddam was was also firm and it was attractive to Satan.
(Translation) xD
Be very sweet and nice to your girlfriend. She should be a princess to you. But at the same time, if she lies to آپ یا does something that upsets you, (flirts with another guy, cheats, stays out too late) آپ have to be firm and scold her. Set boundries. Every girl wants a sweet guy, but if آپ don't set boundries, she may feel free to continue to do some bad things. Don't be so firm that she is scared of you, just enough that she understands that آپ care and آپ are worried.
That's it for now. :) I'll make another one later! <3 See آپ all.
-Hazel
I'm a girl and I have a crush on this guy. I'm in school 5th grade. Here's how it works. Make sure آپ have post-its. When she یا he is not looking grab the post it and pit your number on it. Don't put your name on it! Put it in his یا her desk. Then when they see it make sure they don't know its you. Say that it is your friend. (Yes آپ have to lie.) Tell him یا her not to call آپ just say to text. That is better off. If your name is in your voicemail change it. When he texts آپ say that is your friend. When you're ready ask him یا her out. If they say no say how about some other time. Then continue from there. If they say yes then آپ should tell them who it really is. This happened to me and it worked he is dating someone else but I didn't ask him out yet. I'm have a plan. I hoped this helped!