A typical "potty seat"
most often euphemistically referred to in the English-speaking developed world as "potty training" - I figured I could pass along what has worked (and maybe some of what hasn't).
First of all, as with any parenting, it is important for آپ to know and associate with other parents who are your peers in your area, however آپ get to know them. Whether آپ get to know other parents through your church, a support group, classes یا whatever, it is always important to know others who can pass on advice and keep آپ sane when the chips are flying. It's also good to know other parents as kid stuff is expensive and it feels better to give the old stuff that آپ can't use anymore to someone آپ know will use it than to try to sell it یا to throw it away. آپ may be in the situation where آپ are the first person in your group of دوستوں who has a child...if that's the case, آپ need to broaden your horizons and make some friendships with other parents, even if the prospect seems daunting.
On a related note (and getting back to potty training specifically), the first thing آپ should do is get a portable potty seat. سے طرف کی this I specifically mean something آپ can کی ٹوکری, رکن کی نمائندہ around and plop down where your kid is comfortable, not an "adapter" chair that fits atop a toilet (those are nice, but not necessary). With a potty seat, آپ will be ahead of the game with an important tool. Sure, it's possible that آپ can teach your kids to go potty without one - I know parents who taught their kids how to eliminate into empty cans, for cryin' out loud - but it is just so much easier with a potty chair.
So, the key thing to remember with teaching a child how to use a potty chair یا toilet, which is the key principle behind all advice I've ever seen, is that the child must be able to relax while trying to go potty. In general, this splits further into two approaches:
Fun, fun, fun: you've got to make it fun for your child. Here are some ways that have worked for us:
* Don't scold (I'm not saying that you're scolding your child, I'm including this for completeness): Scolding your child is just starting on the path to giving them a complex about their bodily functions - take a deep breath when there is an accident and say something like "Oops! Looks
like آپ had an accident. Accidents happen, but keep trying! We all make mistakes when we're trying to do something new." (Get used to this phrase - I had to say this pretty much verbatim this morning when my son wet the bed)
* Praise attempts (whether truly successful یا not): if your child makes progress یا shows signs of trying to go potty, give her kudos: "You did it!" "Nice try, baby (or whatever your endearment is)!" "You're getting so big!"
* Try hard to not make it about آپ (again, only an issue for some): The temptation is to say things like "I really want آپ to..." and "I really don't like it when آپ make a mess..." Making statements about your feelings about their performance/behavior is putting a big trip on your
kid and should be avoided. It's not your child's responsibility to take care of your emotions, and laying your emotions on your child is the first step to building them up as co-dependent. What آپ can do instead is tell them about your actions, rather than your feelings (this is getting into Love and Logic stuff, which hopefully آپ can forgive, since آپ know I've added all the Love and Logic stuff to this spot): "I give rewards to kids who try to go potty in the potty seat." et cetera. That way, you've set expectations for what will happen and won't happen, دیا what they decide to do.
* Give rewards (in addition to praise) and/or make it a game: with our son, we put up a couple of sheets of paper on the bathroom wall, one for "pee" and the other for "poo". Every time he did one of those things successfully, he got to choose a sticker from a large assortment of the same, peel it off and put it up on the paper himself. This worked wonders for his self-esteem, and strongly motivated him to try. Another common
motivator is to give actual money to the child for each success. If your kid has a piggy-bank, this can work well without presenting too much hassle (up to you, of course, as to whether your own child is old enough to not نگلنا the change).
* Have a "potty song". Many portable potty seats actually come with companion ویڈیوز these days, but if آپ don't have one, آپ can try link, which has worked well for us. موسیقی is always a good learning tool, as it inhabits
different parts of the brain and memory - a 'catchy' tune can help kids remember what they're supposed to do as they sing the song throughout the day. It will likely feel ridiculous to آپ to sing a potty song (because آپ have to sing along with them if آپ want them to 'get' it), but remember: this whole process is not about you!
Distract, distract, distract: kids, like adults, can't perform well if all they're thinking about is performing well. So the other thing آپ do is to provide distractions so they stop trying so hard and just let their bodies do what comes naturally. On further tip before I go into examples of what آپ can do: when practicing "going potty", your kids may complain that they don't "need to go". Set an expectation that they need to try for a certain length of time, say, five minutes, and that it doesn't matter if they do یا don't "go", but that they try.
* Read some کتابیں with your child while they're "on the potty". There's really nothing but good with this approach: kid gets attention, works on social and cognitive skills, develops an enthusiasm for reading, et cetera. Just about the only drawback is the time آپ need to devote to reading, as there's no telling when your kid will need to "go potty".
* Tell your kids a story. This is pretty similar to the reading for its benefits and drawback, though if anything it shows مزید love to your kids and it involves مزید of your mind (especially if آپ make up your own stories).
* Give the kids a toy یا book to entertain themselves. Kids like toys and, as long as the toy is not something that needs to اقدام on the floor (thus getting away from them یا drawing them off of the potty seat), they can keep themselves entertained for a long time. If you've been reading picture کتابیں to them, they can often re-tell the story to themselves from a book they know, یا invent a story in a new book.
* Set the potty نشست down in front of the TV and put on a video. Of course, a potty training video is good, but if آپ have a TV and are willing to expose your kids to kid's movies, this can be a real good way to distract your kids so they can relax and actually use the potty. If you're already دکھانا your kids videos, آپ can give them a choice between two when they get on the potty. The only drawback for this approach (assuming you're OK with the content of the video) is that your child will want to finish the video after the time is up on the potty seat. آپ may allow this, یا آپ can stop the video and promise to resume the اگلے time they go potty.
These things may not work for you, as every child is different, but they have worked for me. Take what works and leave the rest.
The actual kind of potty seat we use.
