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Advice needed (props for all SERIOUS answers)

I'm only posting this here because the advice spot is kinda dead and I feel I'll have مزید luck here.

I'm gonna try to explain my situation as briefly as possible. Please برداشت, ریچھ with me :L I'm really in need of advice.

So, typical issue: I'm heavily infatuated with my guy friend. I've liked him for a long time now, and I can honestly say I've NEVER liked a guy as much as I like him. We hang out twice per week at a lounge, doing homework and stuff like that, because we both have time gaps between classes. I absolutely love those days; being with him is always the highlight of my دن and I feel that we connect really well. I even went to his band's کنسرٹ with a mutual friend down in another city a few weeks ago. I feel like I flirt with him a lot, but he seems to be one of those guys who doesn't really pick up on it. (He is very intelligent, don't get me wrong).

I used to always scoff at the idea of actually telling him how I feel. However, lately I've been contemplating the idea of it. I love the friendship we've developed and I'd hate to ruin it. Also... I don't think he likes me in that way. I mean, I suppose it's possible, but it hasn't been made evident and I know it's highly likely he only thinks of me as a friend. But the thing is... I still just want to tell him. I hate keeping such a big secret from him and it makes me feel like I'm being dishonest in a way. Also, I'd hate to live with the regret of "what could've been" if I would've tried. There's no guarantee that telling him will ruin the friendship, but I still am afraid to take the risk.

There are about 5 weeks left of the semester, and I don't know if we'll both have break times between classes again اگلے semester. So that means these could be my last 5 weeks of seeing him regularly and my last opportunities to try and "take action." People say to just casually ask him to go do something like a movie یا a meal, but I feel that might be a little weird to ask that since we hang out regularly
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(sorry, it didn't post the rest): since we hang out regularly anyways, and he is also a very busy person in general. What do آپ guys think? Should I just tell him that I like him, being fully prepared for rejection but just taking the risk and not having to live with the regret of "what if"? یا is it not worth it to risk the friendship? And yes, I will give سہارا for answering...
xWiildfiire posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک
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آپ are so lucky to have breaks in between classes?!?!??!
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And thank آپ all for your answers. I will definitely take all of this into account. So far, including دوستوں and family I've talked to, the majority have کہا to go for it lol. This information has been very helpful, so thanks again :P
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Max277 said:
Well I personally think آپ should tell him how آپ feel. If he doesn't like what آپ feel about him then he's a jerk. A movie wouldn't be a bad idea آپ should probably try it. If he ask why, tell him آپ just really wanted to see the movie and know one would come with آپ to see it. If آپ do ask him out and he says no, then he didn't really "like you" I mean it's not awkward to have feelings for a friend that آپ have known forever. I have had close دوستوں that I liked but never asked them out. But آپ should try it. It's not gonna hurt if آپ just ask him. If آپ end up do asking him out and he says no, that doesn't mean آپ guys can't still be friends. For an example I had a huge crush on this guy, one of my دوستوں found out and told him that I liked him. But that didn't ruin our friendship we had. We were still good friends. All I can tell آپ is, give it a try. If آپ only got 5 weeks to ask him I'd get on it. Because people don't wait forever. Hopefully this helpped!!! Please let me know what happens!!!
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posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک 
zikkiforever said:
We all got to takes risks in life. Just do it. Now is all seriousness,it is better to not go what could have been. Just ease into it. If آپ hang our regularly then آپ should be comfortable around each other.

If there ain't long left of the semester,it is better to do it. Go with the moment. It won't wreck your friendship. آپ can't control feelings. Maybe get a mate in there and ask him what he thinks of you.

It will save the embarrassment if a friend finds out if he likes آپ as a friend یا not. He may not feel that way ,but not everybody will.

Don't ask him out on a تاریخ yet. Ask him to help آپ to a review on a movie,review on a food place یا something. Ask him for help,if it was meant to be it will become مزید than it started out. Don't say it is a تاریخ یا that will make him nervous. If sparks fly between BOTH of آپ ,then there آپ go.

آپ could even try avoiding him for a while. It may sound silly ,but he likes آپ that much he will come to آپ and ask why you're avoiding him. If he doesn't notice maybe your not as close as آپ think.

1.Ask a friend to find out.
2.Make up an occasion
3.Avoid him

If your دوستوں رپورٹ back with bad news اقدام on it will hurt ,but it happens. I am sure آپ won't get married like people think,it never turns out a school love is your special somebody.
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posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک 
Dreamtime said:
hold the props
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wait till the 5 weeks ends
then tell him how آپ feel
if آپ confess to him now and it ends bad "let us just be friends" you'll get your heartbroken and disappointed
and آپ may not concentrate on exams and get bad grades
so yeah
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posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک 
LiveLoveMusic said:
1. If you're too scared to do it, just don't do it. Keep your friendship the way it is if آپ don't want to take a risk :-)

2. Ask another friend to tell him if you're the shy type like me. I did that once, actually and it worked. If you're not shy, then just ignore this...

3. Tell him how آپ feel. I think that there could be a big chance that he likes آپ too. I have a friend who's boyfriend doesn't really act like a boyfriend, but don't get me wrong, he likes her. At least try. If he doesn't like آپ back, I'm sure you'll still be friends.

4. Wait until the end of the semester. If آپ want some time to think about how you're going to tell him, this is a good thing to do.

Any one آپ pick, good luck either way.
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posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک 
Foreve1D said:
I had the same problem!!!!! I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. I'm telling آپ right now, that if this guy is as good of a friend as he's coming across, then he'll be able to take آپ approaching him about it. I confronted my guy and no, he didn't like me back but we still remained دوستوں after that and it felt good to get it off my chest. It was like it almost never happened that awkward moment there. But why waste your time saying "What if?" and just go for it. Guys may be unpredictable, but maybe he's just acting like he doesn't like آپ because he thinks آپ might not like him. He may have had his دل broken before and is just afraid. There is no harm in trying. Hope this helped!
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Let me know what happens please!
Foreve1D posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک
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Haha. If anything remarkable goes down, I'll fill آپ in :P
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Thanks that would be great! :)
Foreve1D posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک
karolinak1999 said:
awwh thats so cute!!!!

Don't tell him, دکھائیں him when the time is right and آپ two are alone....lean in and kiss him - like in the فلمیں lol!!!!! but I'm serious, if your in a moment آپ two are alone.......The other thinh آپ should look at is are آپ in his league?!......and are آپ sure he's not gay??, I'm serious ***but don't want any props!!!
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posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک 
prussiaducky said:
I wouldn't if I were you, just keep the beautiful friendship. I wouldn't want to ever lose such a friendship. That's me though, take the risk if آپ really want to.
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posted پہلے زیادہ سے سال ایک 
Book-Freak said:
Well, I think آپ should tell him. If آپ feel so passionately about this (and him) آپ should tell him. It might not be easy to do (and he might not feel the same way so آپ should be prepared for that) but he might accept it you'll be closer (he may even feel the same way!).
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